Introduction

Ever since I was 19, the questions like "why am i here?" or "what is my purpose on earth?" or "what is it that i was meant to do, that was most beneficial?"...etc... I've always taken control of my life, I wanted to know what my purposes were, and how I can achieve them sooner, than let them slip away.

As the years went by, now I am 22, another few months I will be graduating from University. Over the past few years, I've had romantic relationships that worked for a while, and ended up in a bust. Or work opportunities that I wanted, but couldn't get. Nothing so far seems substantial, nor I feel content about where I am, or the road that I am going to walk on.

It was easy in earlier years, where everything in life was pretty much connecting the dots. I was covered by the shelter of being called "student". I knew what I needed to do to go to the next dot. If I wanted to go to University, I knew I had to study hard, and take the courses that were required. If I wanted to go to the next grade, I knew I can't fail certain courses. But, now...as the shelter of school is coming thin...the life "dot" have disappeared. Rather, there are so many dots. I don't know what choices I pick will lead me to where I am "suppose" to go. Or rather, where I would like to go, directly or indirectly.

I am sure we've all heard of the term "mid-life crisis", that's for describing people in their 40s with problems like...they look at where they are in life, compared with what their dream was....and times as such, 40s people go out to do things that are deviated from their age etc. But, the term "quarter-life crisis" isn't emphasized so much. Most people have never heard of the term. Quarter-life crisis is experienced by people around 20s and 30s. Symptoms usually seeing as...

- Not sure what to do in life
- Not knowing what choices to make, or if the choice they made really is a good choice
- Seems so powerless about destiny
- Anxiety from leaving the school shelter, and stepping into the real world of responsibilities
- Uncertain about their relationships with friends, family and/or lovers
- Depression

The list can go on, but you get the idea...I had and currently having some of the problems.

When I first experienced these, I thought I was alone. Everyone seems rosie about their life. Not only till I started doing some research, and had deeper conversations with my friends, I noticed many of my friends are also experiencing similar problems. Then I realized, the topic of quarter life crisis isn't emphasized much for the 20s and 30s, and in turn, it is making the problem/issues worse. Leaving the 20s and 30s left in the wild, wandering and feeling alone...

This is the reason why I've started this blog. I wanted to share with whoever is reading this, about my life encounters. Maybe you could relate some to your own life. But just know that, most of the 20s and 30s people experience these problems, and you are not alone.

Although, everyone's growing background and experience is different. So, I don't expect everyone to share the same problems/issues in life around the same age.

I will be posting blogs related to...relationships with friends, family...romantic relationships...career choices...life meanings...faith/religion....social life..

If you have questions, please feel free to flip me an e-mail.