Compromise

If you pick up any relatinoship self-help books; christian or non-christian author doesn't matter. One of the topic is about compromising. Compromising is very important in sustaining the relationship without building a brick wall between the two party over time. However, what are some of the things that can be compromised and what are the things that one should stand firm on?

Well, I would do anything for the person I love. Over time I even have compromised my values. Some of which I used to be proud of, and slowly I let those slip. So long as my loved one is happy, I thought it was ok. But, I learned something the hard way. One's value should NEVER be compromised regardless who the opponent is.

Here is why. What's considered as 'Good' will never change. Regardless how shady the world might get. So, if you hold on to a good value, and someone comes along who might not appreciate that value, makes you think you should compromise. For a while it will be fine, but what if one day, that person realizes or changes themselves for the better, and begin to put importance on that value??

What you get is...that person telling you that they don't like your value because you lack at this and that. But what they don't realize is that, the way you are today, was the result of all of the compromises you've made.

I've definately learned this lesson the hard way.